RYAN MINTI
Relationship Theorist

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Relationship Theorist

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GAD-7 for Anxiety

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Background

Robert Sptizer's widely used tool for quantifying anxiety,  it constitutes 7 questions.

how often have I been bothered by X over the past 2 weeks?

Answer each in either 0-2 days (0 points), 3-7 days (1 point), 8-11 days (2 points), 12-14 days (3 points)


Feeling nervous or anxious.

Not being able to control worrying.

Worrying about multiple things.

Trouble relaxing mentally.

Being physically restless.

Being irritable.

Feeling afraid that something awful might happen.

PHQ-9

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Background

Kurt Kroenke's widely used tool for quantifying mental health, it constitutes 9 questions.

how often have I been bothered by X over the past 2 weeks?

Answer each in either 0-2 days (0 points), 3-7 days (1 point), 8-11 days (2 points), 12-14 days (3 points)


Little interest or pleasure in doing things.

Feeling down, depressed, or hopeless.

Trouble falling asleep, or getting up on time.

Feeling tired or having little energy.

Poor appetite or overeating.

Feeling that you are a failure.

Trouble concentrating on enjoyable things.

Moving or speaking slowly.

Thoughts that you would be better off dead.

Attachment Style

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Background

John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth's work on attachment theory remains influential in understanding psychological assessments.


Enter your email at the end of this quiz to receive a report on your attachement style with 3 individuals (eg mother, father, partner) and in general: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/relationship-structures/situation

Measure your pursuance.

Do you require constant reassurance in a relationship?

Measure your avoidance.

Do you require breathing room in a relationship?

Measure your Locus of Control

Who pulls the strings here? Is it anyone? Are we all just on a rollercoaster? Are you waiting for life to come to you?

Myers Briggs TI

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Background

Understanding the MBTI can be enhanced by considering its relationship with various psychological assessments. The best quiz for this can be found here: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

Measure your Introversion/ Extroversion

Do you feel anxious when you can't get access to friends?

Do you feel anxious when you can't get access to alone time?

Measure your Inntuition/ Sensing

Do you look at the immediate situation?

Do you look at the broad situation?

Measure your Feeling/ Thinking

Do you prioritise the logical?

Do you prioritise the emotional?

Measure your Judging/ Perceiving

Do you Improvise?

Do you schedule?

Apply a title

Visit 16 personalities to apply a name to your type and see fictional and non-fictional characters who share your type.

Going further: Jungian Cognitive Functions

What is your Hero, Parent, Child and Inferior? Read more here: https://www.myersbriggs.org/unique-features-of-myers-briggs/type-dynamics-processes/

PEL-SAC Assesment

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Background

My Self, Attraction, Compatibility assessment looks at your position on dozens of spectra under the 3 umbrellas of Physical, Emotional, Logistical self-evaluation, attraction and compatibility. Then it looks where prospective partners fall on these spectra to be deemed the most attractive to you, and a broader margin that indicates compatibility.

Physical

Bulk, Height, Thickness, Muscularity, Symmetry, Breast/Penis size, Skin colour, Ethinc Traits, gender, Style, Gait, etc

Emotional

Humility, Empathy, Conscientiousness, Playfulness, Openness, Creativity, (fe)maleness, 

Logistical

proximity, wealth, family ties, social circle, career, availability, 

Porous or Rigid Boundaries

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Background

Terri 'Boundary Boss' Cole reminds us about PR specturm of boundaries.

Her quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/go/

Porous

Difficulty saying "no": Feeling compelled to agree to requests even when you don't want to.

Oversharing: Revealing too much personal information too soon.

Enmeshment: Becoming overly involved in others' problems and emotions, struggling to differentiate your feelings from theirs.

People-pleasing: Prioritizing others' needs and approval over your own.

Vulnerability to manipulation: Accepting mistreatment due to fear of abandonment.

Feeling drained: Experiencing burnout from constantly meeting others' needs.

Rigid

Closed off: Unwilling to let others get close, emotionally or physically.

Inflexible rules: Strict "my way or the highway" approach; resistant to new ideas or compromising.

Avoids vulnerability: Puts up walls to avoid hurt, often reacting with an automatic "no".

Protective but costly: Effectively shields from pain but sacrifices deep connection and intimacy.

Rooted in past experiences: Often develops after negative experiences like abuse.

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