Therapist as a calling
My Origin Story
I remember doing ALIS tests at school and being given the result of Psychologist as my ideal profession. I didn't follow that advice for many years however, until after a string of difficult relationships, and receiving a diagnosis of autism, I was drawn to spend more time with the interpersonal rules that people date by, love by, and live by. So I quit the world of ad tech and began to develop successful working relationships with folks I knew from the flourishing, colourful adult-party scene in London.
Through my work I'm blessed to meet many people at various stages of self-discovery, as they navigate their way in a modern metropolis, listening not to convention, but to their hearts. I became skilled at helping them to stay true to themselves, attract people that inspire them, trigger life events that fulfil them, growing happy in sync with all those they touch, figuratively and literally.
I am training as a Psychotherapist with CPTA and Lambeth College. I'm also a semi-pro musician and avid video gamer.
My Philosophy
My relationship etiquette framework stems from years of connecting, dating, and loving with a non-mono mould. I hold the time people spend together to be the active site of relationship building. And so how we communicate with each other when apart is an exercise in sustaining that fire. I teach relationship hygiene, first simplifying then building back up clients' approaches to vetting partners, exploring whilst in love, and loving more than one person.
In other words: There are multiple pillars that influence why we engage in certain relationships, and I assist individuals in factorising, analysing, and reconstructing these elements into a comprehensive roadmap for the future.
Through my research and work with clients, I document and develop moralities about relationship touchpoints like Lust, Love, Value sharing, Physical Attraction, Emotional Attraction, Logistical Attraction, Boundaries/ Expectations, Power struggles, Marriage, Pregnancy, and Child-rearing. Each of these components comes into sharp focus in sessions designed to teach my method for effective relationship clarity.
My Publications
I write extensively. My work is being published in the seminal work What I Learned From Being Discarded, which outlines all my methods and mantras, whether re-skinnings of established relationship theory, or brand new modalities for stronger, happier connections. See examples in my Medium publication.
To accompany the book, I wrote a memoire of life-altering events that happened in the months leading up to the writing of that very work. I called these anecdotes: In the Wake of Her. Lost chapters can be read on my substack.
My Studies and Research
I publish and test frameworks for new types of therapy to assist in helping patients process confusing behaviours from their loved ones.