GAD-7 for Anxiety and PHQ-9 FOR DEPRESSION
General Anxiety Disorder
Robert Sptizer's widely used tool for quantifying anxiety.
Patient Health Questionnaire
Kurt Kroenke's widely used tool for quantifying mental health.
Attachment Style
Background
John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth's work on attachment theory remains influential in understanding psychological assessments.
Measure your pursuance & avoidance
Do you require constant reassurance in a relationship? Do you require breathing room in a relationship?
Measure your Locus of Control
Who pulls the strings here? Is it anyone? Are we all just on a rollercoaster? Are you waiting for life to come to you?
PEL-SAC Assessment
Background
My Self, Attraction, Compatibility assessment looks at your position on dozens of spectra under the 3 umbrellas of Physical, Emotional, Logistical self-evaluation, attraction and compatibility. Then it looks where prospective partners fall on these spectra to be deemed the most attractive to you, and a broader margin that indicates compatibility.
Physical
The 10 main traits I assess: Bulk, Height, Skin Tone, Muscularity, Sex Organ Size, Sexual Experience, Muscle Mass, Gender Expression, Style, Gait, Skill Differential, Symmetry
Emotional
The 10 main traits I assess: Humility, Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness, Stoicism, Energy, Creativity, Openness, Neuroticism, Generosity
Logistical
The 10 main traits I assess: Proximity, Family Philosophy, Social Standing, Wealth, Social Circle, Career Orientation, Availability, Career Alignment, Dependants' pressure, Stability
Social Shell Permeability
Background
Ever noticed that some people share more than you? Ever noticed that people are worried if you divulge too much about your situation? Try the assessment to see if you have badly tuned social shell permeability.
Porous
Difficulty saying "no": Feeling compelled to agree to requests even when you don't want to.
Oversharing: Revealing too much personal information too soon.
Enmeshment: Becoming overly involved in others' problems and emotions, struggling to differentiate your feelings from theirs.
People-pleasing: Prioritising others' needs and approval over your own.
Vulnerability to manipulation: Accepting mistreatment due to fear of abandonment.
Feeling drained: Experiencing burnout from constantly meeting others' needs.
Rigid
Closed off: Unwilling to let others get close, emotionally or physically.
Inflexible rules: Resistant to new ideas or compromising.
Avoids vulnerability: Puts up walls to avoid hurt, often reacting with an automatic "no".
Protective: Effectively shields from pain at the sacrifice of deep connection and intimacy.
Rooted in past experiences: Often develops after negative experiences like abuse.
Relationship Agreement
Background
When we enter a close relationship we give up freedoms. When people in relationships say "We are open to X" we should distinguish between "I still want to do X", "I have have permission to do X", and "I still currently do X". This model helps clients break down the different freedoms and assess them based on these 3 statements.
What aren't you aligned on?
Look at these 10 Physical, 10 Emotional and 10 Logistical properties, see where you stand on them all, think about where an ideal partner would have to be on each one, then think about where your current, prospective or last partner sits on them.
LOVE Languages
Background
American pastor and marriage counsellor, Gary Chapman, wrote in The Five Love Languages (1992) that people tend to give and receive love through 5 categories. This can change over time and based on who the target of our love is. Childhood experiences have great predictive power about our LL and vice versa. Being in tune with our partner's LL, even if it feels unnatural to us. And each dynamic can change as the maturity of the love changes, and constitute more than 1 LL.